Last week, Reader, I spent a beautiful week in Toronto—first with an amazing client team, and then with my publisher and fellow authors.

There were hugs from people I’d worked with for years but hadn’t met in person yet, deep conversations that only happen when you’re in the room together, and a WhatsApp voice message from my client that still makes me smile. 🗣️

It felt good—aligned, nourishing, right—to invest my time and energy in being with talented people in powerful rooms.

And then . . .

This week, a lot of folks I know were in London at an event called Thinkers50. I’d been invited earlier this year, but I decided against the trip. Travel dollars, time away, energy—it just didn’t feel like the right choice this round.

But when the after-party photos started rolling through LinkedIn, I’ll admit it: I felt the FOMO.

Or maybe ROMO—regret of missing out.

I’ve learned something, though: ROMO never helps.

It second-guesses a version of me who made a thoughtful decision based on what was true at the time.

So instead, I’m choosing TOMO—trust of missing out.

(Yes, it's a thing--or if not, I'm making it a thing.)

TOMO looks like this:

• I trust that the rooms I am in are the rooms I’m meant to be in.
• I trust that I don’t have to be everywhere to make an impact.
• I trust that I’m enough, right now, where I am.

And here’s the lesson I keep coming back to—and maybe it’s useful for you, too:

Every “no” we make today is really a “yes” to something that matters more.

Sometimes that “something” is rest. Sometimes it’s focus. Sometimes it’s our own sanity.

But there is always something we’re protecting and nurturing when we say "no"—even when the "no" stings a little later.

If you're challenged to avoid ROMO and stay focused on what's most important, check out these articles on my blog;

​How to Stay Focused on What's Most Important (10 Days at a Time)​

​Help! I Have Too Many Priorities (What to Do If That Is You)​

​When You Don't Trust Your Gut (3 Questions to Ask)​

So how about you, Reader? Ever scrolled LinkedIn and felt that tug of FOMO or ROMO? Hit REPLY and tell me about it. What'd you do? What'd you learn? I always love reading your stories, and I work hard to respond to as many as I can (just me, no robots, ever).  🤖

As for me, I'll continue to work on my TOMO, building that muscle that says I trust my own decisions and choices. In the long run, it feels kinder and smarter than any other choice--and who among us can't use a little more smart kindness? 🦸🏻‍♀️

Keep soaring, my friend, and thanks for being here!

Always, Darcy

​

P.S. We're actively booking "start the year strong" workshops and events for teams and organizations, so if you're looking ahead and want to inject trust, focus, and energy into your group in 2026, book a call now to get started. --D